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So, im 17 and my bf is 19. After we started dating, his abusive stepdad kicked him out of his parent’s house. My mom told him he could live with us, and together we.started planning to save up and get a place in less than a year when i turn 18.
Soooo the other night my bf and i were arguing and my mom could hear us yelling. She kept sending me texts like “you guys shouldnt be together, you dont really love each other you’re both stupid, your relationship is sick and twisted etc.” Now I’ve been with this boy for over a year now. I love him so much I cant wait to get a place with him, and my mom has failed in every relationship she’s been in, shes so aggresive and “me me me” no wonder why she couldnt keep a husband…. she’s always so obnoxious and VERY open with her opinions to the point where I’m almost disgusted talking to her. So me and my bf would usually just avoid her by hanging out in the basement…
Anyway. After reading all the rude things she texted me (a few days after she PROMISED ME that she wouldn’t start fighting with/ verbally attacking me and dylan while it was obvious thT we were having words, seriously isn’t that what little kids do when their mom and dad are fighting? Get in the middle so the attention is on them… ugh) i went up to her and bitched her out. She had no right to pretend from a couple things she heard that she knew the situation and had any precedence to come get in the middle of it. She didnt care. She followed me back to my room (I believe she was inebriated. I watched her consume alcohol that night and her breath wreaked of booze.) And started screaming at us both. We tried to tell her “just go to bed patty, please leave us alone this is none of your business) but because i had been in an abusive relationship before she’s super paranoid that every bf i date is going to beat me, so she wouldn’t leave us alone. She was acting belligerent, with her fists up like she was ready to hit us. She kept saying “you guys are stupid you dont scare me I’m not intimidated by you” and weird shit that didnt make sense and she kept drunkenly laughing… ugh thinking about it makes me sick. Eventually my bf got pissed and was like “patty i could intimidate you if i wanted to. I’ll walk out of this house right now let me leave.” And she kept stepping in front of him basically cornering him in the hallway. I tried to get in between them but it didnt calm them down. So my mom kept getting up in his face and eventually he just pushed her out of his way. I saw it all. He did NOT cause her pain at all. She simply had to step back.
Well , because he touched her, I guess that means that she’s allowed to do whatever she wants. She immediately picked up the phone and decided to call the cops even though he barely touched her. We left the house cuz we didnt want to deal with that, cops are douchebags in my town and he didn’t do anything wrong. A few minutes into our walk cops pulled up and arrested my bf without reading him his rights or telling him what he was being.charged with. The cop also forcefully touched my breasts…. he told me i was “standing too close to his car” because i was trying to tell my bf I’d be there to bail him out. Before I could react he put his hands right on my chest and I said “you can’t touch me there im a minor” the cop didn’t care. His cohort also didnt care, although he was driving to my house to tell my mom that dylan had been taken into custody he wouldnt give me a ride home. Two police officers left a minor on the side of the road alone at 1 am. So i sprinted home and got money to bail him out then sprinted to the police station only to wait hours before he got out.
He’s being charged with assault and battery and may face jail time or be fined heavily.
I fucking hate my mom for this. If there wasnt the worry of her calling the po-po on me I honestly would have beat the shit out of her for putting my bf in this situation. She knows of his debt troubles. Now he has to pay 4000 dollars for a lawyer and other court costs. He may lose his two jobs. He may even get locked up.
My mom says “i didnt know they’d arrest him.” She seems to think calling the cops is just a game you play. I want to get the fuck out of this house so badly. I hate being here but right now i dont have the money to get my own place. If my mom didnt want him to live at our house why couldnt she just ask him to leave instead of getting police involved?
I cant go live with my dad because he never knew dylan lived with me and my mom (my mom made me swear to keep it a secret) and he’s mad at me for keeping that secret instead of being mad at her for being responsible for all this…. he wont let me go with him. Basically if i want to go i have one choice, job corp. Which is a whole commitment and i dont know if i want to do it yet. I cant just make a snap decision like that….
My mom doesnt realize what she’s done. She puts me in a horrible situation. I was so happy sharing a room with my bf and planning for the future. My bf could be screwed forever if he gets jail time. I hate her for potentially ruining his life… what do i do? How do i get her to see how badly she’s fucked it all up? My bf was part of my plans and now all the plans have to change and i have so much hate towards my mother…. ugh help :(
Also… i decided to file a complaint against the officer because he wasnt doing his job correctly. He failed to follow protocol and touched a minor inappropriately. Neither of my parents believe that the cop touched me. They think i’m doing it for attention …. please help i feel so trapped. I just want to run away. I want to fuck over my mom like she fucked my bf over and indirectly, me. She’s convinced he beats me when he’s so sweet and gentle. I hate her. I want to take the most precious thing in the world from her and keep her from seeing it. I think thats me, but i cant leave yet! helppp:(